View Single Post
  #1  
Old 11-19-2010, 12:00 AM
StrangerinKS StrangerinKS is offline
Member
 
Join Date: Nov 2010
Posts: 27
Default What a strange, freaky, scary, and exciting thing

My wife and I have been married for 21 years, very happily. Recently, our relationship became polyamorous when I fell in love with another woman. Amazingly, my wife approves of the relationship, as does the other woman's husband (it helps that we have been swingers for five years, although not with this kind of emotional content).

The last three months have been a blur of love. The biggest problem I face is insecurity and envy over the time my lover spends with another lover of hers. Due to work obligations, she can spend a bit more time with him than she can with me, although she insists that her feelings for me are much stronger, and that she would end the other relationship if i asked her to. However, I have no desire to do that to her. What I want is to get a handle on my envy.

What I find so strange about it is that I have never had ANY jealousy or insecurity about my wife in a swinging context, nor even now that she is building more loving friendships with other people.

The whole thing is forcing me to confront issues of security and identity, and I've probably grown more as a person in the last three months than I have in the last 10 years. It really is an amazing thing.
Reply With Quote