Originally Posted by SvartSvensk
If I'm honest, this is seriously bumming me out. I actually feel a little emasculated, by my own man bits.
Maybe it's just not the right woman?
Honestly, it sounds like you are putting a tonne of pressure on yourself. It happens. You are in a mind fuck of a situation for your first time. Your wife is giving you permission without her to have sex with someone else.
Then you have one bad episode and beat yourself up
you are young and unless you have any previous medical conditions you are likely suffering from a bit of anxiety about it. Don't overthink it, your penis will work if you simply let it. You penis will appreciate the lack of thought.
Not the right woman, on sooo many levels, is soooo the wrong way to look at it.