Thanks for the comment Breathesgirl. We have talked about just finding someone for each of us, but we don't think that will work. I am happy with just him, so I really don't need anyone else and I don't want him to feel left out.
He is in need of male attention and affection. We talked about just a gay man, but I don't want to feel left out. So we figured a bi male that would love to be with both of us as equally as possible is the best.
We know he's out there, just have to keep looling.