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Old 11-17-2010, 02:54 PM
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......... the fact that I spent years as the omega male (the opposite of the alpha male) and don't want to go back to that, the fact that I really don't like myself that much, the fact that I never agreed to her dating males, the most I can do is not tell her no, the fact that I don't feel like I have a choice without being insanely unfair,
Hey NTO,

Sounds like you are really struggling with accepting poly as a reality at all. Especially for yourself.
You may not be cut out for it - at least at this point in your life. Too many of your own issues & insecurities that you need to work on. It's a full time job in itself.

The whole alpha/omega thing is a big tip off.

The only way that poly works is when we walk forward, as partners, with a loved one. There's no space for hierarchy there. We walk side by side with them and support them as best we can in their pursuit of happiness and love.

If we can't be a good partner - we need to get out of the way-until we can.

GS
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