I find that when I'm looking the hardest, that's when it seems that I can't find what I'm looking for.
I live in a small town - the nearest "major" center to me is at least an hour away.... so I get it. Bi, married, with kids and not willing to "out" myself to my acquanintences.... ugh.
So I understand. And keep my bar high - because the few times I've lowered it, its been uncomfortable at best and horrific in its worst.
You're not the only one. Check out OK Cupid.
There are three sides to every story - yours, mine and the truth.