Originally Posted by crackertat2s
My wife seemed okay with it too.. Then I excluded my wife one night to go to the girls house
... My wife flipped out on me and things got super ugly.. My wife told me I should have never chose the girl over her ect . . .
Your wife likely feels threatened by your emotional attachment to your gf and insecure in your marriage.
You need to take some time to decide what you really want and what is most important to you. When you have figured this out, share this new-found insight with the ones you love. If you want to keep your marriage, you may need to invest some serious time strengthening your relationship with your wife, making sure that she understands in a deep way how important she is to you and how much you love her.
Similarly, if what you want most is to create a polyamorous life, you may have to face the possibility that your wife will never go along with that. You may have to give up what you’ve built there in order to create what you really want.
But whatever you decide, I wish you and your loved ones all the best.