Originally Posted by vodkafan
I guess I was wondering about people who have maybe had poly leanings for years, but been more or less happy in a monogamous long term relationship, how they controlled themselves, whether it made them very unfulfilled etc etc;
Well, I can only speak for myself, but to me it's like asking how I controlled myself when I was single. I was single because I hadn't met someone I was in love with and who was in love with me. Being single in itself didn't make me miserable, I wasn't missing anything, but when someone did show up my life incorporated him.
Then it was the exact same thing. I wasn't controlling myself, not really, I wasn't worried about it because I hadn't met anyone. When I realised it would happened, I talked with my husband about it, and then I went back to not thinking about it.
I guess I'm very "take it as it comes" in that prospect. I've never looked for "someone", just tried to be with people I felt an attraction and/on connection with.