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Old 11-15-2010, 07:51 PM
Tonberry Tonberry is offline
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Originally Posted by vodkafan View Post
I guess I was wondering about people who have maybe had poly leanings for years, but been more or less happy in a monogamous long term relationship, how they controlled themselves, whether it made them very unfulfilled etc etc;
Well, I can only speak for myself, but to me it's like asking how I controlled myself when I was single. I was single because I hadn't met someone I was in love with and who was in love with me. Being single in itself didn't make me miserable, I wasn't missing anything, but when someone did show up my life incorporated him.
Then it was the exact same thing. I wasn't controlling myself, not really, I wasn't worried about it because I hadn't met anyone. When I realised it would happened, I talked with my husband about it, and then I went back to not thinking about it.

I guess I'm very "take it as it comes" in that prospect. I've never looked for "someone", just tried to be with people I felt an attraction and/on connection with.
Me: 31F, straight
Seamus: My husband, 32M, straight
Dragon: My boyfriend, 29M, pansexual, married to Fox
Fox: My boyfriend, 29M, homoflexible, married to Dragon
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