Originally Posted by FlameKat
It could be also that your wife is just really enjoying the romance and mystery of it all at the moment and doesn't want it to progress further herself (at this point?)...
Funny you should say that.. right after you posted that I went to hang out with her in the bedroom while he was online and she was joking around with him and told me something along the lines of "I don't care anymore... if he comes he comes, if he doesn't, oh well!" So even though she can't quite break that connection, she's not as invested in having it progress further as that unbreakable connection would imply (to my mind at least).