This is a prime example of why people think that poly is having ones cake and eating it too. There is an issue here with balance, but you have created that. You can uncreate that. Just do stuff for you. Start today.
I can't imagine doing what your man has been doing. It actually makes me cringe, to think of fucking Mono knowing PN can hear. What kind of respect is that from him AND her! And not pulling my weight? I would be told off so fast and my good thing would end! Not to mention I would feel terrible knowing PN has had to look after what is my stuff to look after. I'm a grown up, I can take care of my own life.
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