Originally Posted by redpepper
This three point summary is from the link below... thoughts?
Path toward better open relationships. The three-point summary:
1. Inviting people to share responsibility with you allows for more fun than trying to control them.
2. There's enough (intimacy, love, sex, attention, etc.) to go around.
3. These two above ideas constitute a different paradigm for relationships than the commonly held belief of scarcity and needing to control one's lovers. If there's a conflict I'm aware of it's not between monogamous and non-monogamous relationship models but between a world view premised on abundance and autonomy vs one premised on scarcity and the need to control those in one's sphere. The two world views are not compatible, there isn't a happy mid-point compromise between them, and they aren't equally good at guiding people to be decent to each other. If you're living your life in abundance and dating somebody who believes they live in scarcity, they're the one whose world-view needs to change.
I really like this RP, It is a new way to look at things (for me) and don't want to hijack your thread, but a few points/questions come to mind:
1) I believe a completely monogamous couple can also live with this same philosophy of abundance and giving. Admittedly, many DON'T.
2) How do you define an open relationship exactly? Do you mean that being poly means ALWAYS being "open" to somebody else coming into the relationship and changing the dynamic? Or is there a point where you think :I have enough in my life, we are now closed. Even if there are like 6-7 people in there.
3)Our set up being Polyandrous, my wife considers our V "closed" not open. So definitions again.