Originally Posted by redpepper
I wish he'd said "in his opinion" here as it is his opinion and a judgment... ah well.
That's just the way essay writing is today. It's taken as a given that it's his opinion, and we're welcome to write him a lengthy response back if we don't like it. He should not have said "I" though, that made the message too personal.
The abundance model is really the only way you can achieve an 'absolute' security. Technically, it is a leap of faith. Maybe that's contrary to the idea of security; that it requires faith makes it less than air-tight, which would be epitome of secure. However the reality of being in control of another person and thusly dominating their time and affections is incredibly grim by comparison.