Originally Posted by Jodi
good morning. has anyone ever felt that their polymorous relationship was at a standstill? like you want a deeper connection to the person, but it's not happening?
i feel like that now, but i don't want to push the issue, bcz i feel that i should be happy w/ the loving that i get....and give. i do kind of feel it's unbalanced, that i care a bit more, but he says that he just doesn't verbalize it. i try to discuss, hint, etc. i havne't discussed this w/ his wife, one of my best friends. she not that receptive to deep discussions and suffers pretty badly from ADD. we have spoken about some things tho, but mainly we joke around, and share loving our children.
i can't believe how much it's been bumming me out lately. it's been 6 months that we're together and i adore him. i respect their space and create no drama, and it has gone really well. these feelings are coming about a little stronger now. i sometimes feel like an afterthought, and it's not a good feeling. i've even thought about stopping seeing him one evening per night.
thanks. i feel like i need a hug, reassurance. ugh.
It could be that the whole thing has run it's course and that the relationship dynamic needs to change to something a little less formal... friends with benefits? intimate friends? a non-sexual boyfriend? a secondary relationship while you have a primary and so does he... ? don't be afraid to change things up, they can change again if you both find that you prefer something different... the whole thing is fluid and no one had to say good bye... just figure out what goals have come about and what new things you want to create in your life, and then embrace that and go for it.