I hate the subtle hint thing
. My sutble hints don't seem to work on my husband and I don't seem to get his. We finally had to make the decission to just be upfront about what we need or want. When he does ask, sometimes I will just close up my computer, tv, book, etc immediately while other times I will tell him, give me 1/2 hour or so to finish up what ever I was doing. This whole change in dynamic actually surprised him and suddenly he was getting more sex than he could keep up with
. Before he just assumed I wasn't interested, when the reality was I wasn't reading his "hints".
Maybe you guys can come up with some code words that you both can feel safe using for such situations.