Welcome back Justbeloving. Let me start by saying that I'm sorry you're in this particular situation. I love the analogy that Mono used. Hit it right on the head. Have you thought about having him join this site so he can read some others experiences?
The only other words of advice I have are keep those lines of communication as open as possible and give him time to adjust. My wife and I moved at a snails pace at the beginning because that's what we both needed to sort through feelings and emotions.
Live life to the fullest 'cause you never know if you're gonna wake up tomorrow!