Originally Posted by Ruby
Well, I would argue that one CAN BE polyamorous AND a cheater ).
I agree with you on that for sure. Honesty is one of the only things I beleive everyone agrees upon with regards to what is a poly ideal. Whether or not you are poly doesn't mean you can't lie or fuck someone behind your SO's back.
The cheating person who uses it as an excuse is the type I was referring to similar to your idea.
I'm not a big fan of the casual sex aproach being considered poly but that is only because I don't want people to think that that is what people in my life do. Hence why I don't use the word anymore when explaining things to people or family.