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Old 11-09-2010, 02:51 PM
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Originally Posted by jokutus View Post
Since reading "Sex at Dawn: The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality",
The flip side is that women don't produce testosterone at the average male levels (roughly an 8th of what guys do) - so why do women get jealous if there is a correlation between testosterone levels and jealousy? I understand that women and men are different, so this may not even be a factor.
That sounds like an interesting book, but as with everything, there's more to it than just biology. Social conditioning is a huge factor.

(for ex, so many men now say they prefer a shaved vulva on a woman [I blame internet porn] whereas a couple decades ago, hair between the legs was accepted by most as erotic and normal)


So what do you guys think? Could there be a correlation between jealousy (male and/or female) and testosterone levels? Anyone here also diagnosed with low testosterone and seamlessly transition to polyamory from a monogamy? Perhaps this would make an interesting study...
My gf is MtoF transgendered and handles jealousy better than anyone I've even known, so you may be on to something here... taking social conditioning into consideration as well.

Men have traditionally needed to protect "their" women from other men to assure the children she bore were biologically his. There is speculation that before the biological component of conception was understood, this was not the case. Children were born of a woman by the grace of the Goddess, and were thought to be members of the tribe, not a possession of one particular man. Certain stories in the Bible confirm this shift.

Originally Posted by MusicalRose View Post
I think hormones may have a bit to do with jealousy, but I think it has more to do with how people are socialized into thinking of relationships as exclusive and in terms of sexual possessiveness. Women get jealous and fight about it in the U.S. now, but in other countries or in the past, where one man was expected to have many wives, there were situations where all the wives were cooperative with each other and functioned quite well.
This is also contradicted in the stories of polygynous marriages in the Bible. The wives definitely struggled with jealousy around time the husband spent with each, and who had how many children by him, to mention two areas of conflict.

Also, to come to the present century, you've not seen the current reality show Sister Wives? The cameras follow a family of Fundamentalist Mormons, where polygyny is the accepted norm. But the 3 established wives all definitely had to struggle with jealousy when their husband brought in a new wife after 15 years of being with the original three. Jealousy in multiple relationships will always be there to a degree, however things will vary in how well each individual/couple handles it.
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley

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