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Old 11-08-2010, 08:37 PM
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I'm having trouble around my space and feeling comfortable in it. My husband's girlfriend had a pretty shitty night on Friday and didn't want to be alone on Saturday and so I told my husband that it would be fine to invite her along to RP's show on Saturday night and I didn't mind her staying over in the guest room afterwards. The issue was that she was still there the next morning and I can't relax with her around because I don't know her well enough and I don't want to step on any toes regarding the relationship between her and my husband. I wasn't going to be in my house much that day due to other commitments and I felt really put out that I couldn't just spend the morning having my usual lazy Sunday morning.

I don't know how to ask someone to leave nicely without it seeming offensive. I really didn't mind her staying over but I did want my house and life back in the morning. I want to be able to be relaxed in my own house and it's only by nature of their relationship that I'm not. I feel like I have to be on my best behaviour all the time when she's in my house. I also don't get why I feel so differently about her staying over than I do anyone else. We have other friends stay over and either they hang out in the morning or they don't and it's no big deal either way. All I can think is that I feel muzzled when it comes to her and that I almost can't say anything about wanting my space back when I want it back whereas I have no trouble at all with letting other friends know that it's time for them to go home.
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