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Old 11-08-2010, 07:00 PM
SkeeterV SkeeterV is offline
Join Date: Sep 2010
Location: Tulsa, Oklahoma
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Default My wife is scared I'll leave

My wife, Flea has a boyfriend. They've been an item for a while now. She started her relationship with him before we were poly. In fact, when I found out about them, she told me she was in love with both of us and didn't want to give up either one. That's when I started to do some research. I found out about poly and presented the concept to her. She agreed that was what she was feeling and we began the long process of changing our lovestyle. I wasn't convinced at first, but I have slowly come to the conclusion that I too am poly.

Recently I reconnected with an old live-in girlfriend of mine. Things heated up quickly, and now we are in a full blown romantic relationship. My wife supported and even encouraged me to pursue this relationship and I was open and honest with her about every step along the way. But now that I have deep feelings for my new love, and I am going to see her soon, my wife is frightened I'm going to leave her.

I'm not going to leave her. She is the mother of my children, and my life mate. I feel like this is a double standard. It's okay for her to have another relationship, but not me. I'm terrified, angry, and in the throws of some pretty powerful NRE all at the same time. I'm sure someone has been in similar situation. Any advice would be helpful.
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