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Old 08-21-2009, 06:25 AM
Creatress Creatress is offline
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Default Kid-Related Custody/Legal Fears

Hey, all.

What can I do to protect myself and my daughter from her dad's family?

I'm moving into a poly family, and we'll be in the same state as BD and his parents. I SUCK at being in the closet, I just do. I can handle it at work and stuff, but not being able to post anything on fb or whatever, there's no way I'm going to be able to keep this from BD for long, and his family is pretty conservative. I don't think he himself would petition for custody. It's his future wife and his parents who are all pretty conservative, and BD is passive enough to pursue it if they talk him into it. His parents love my daughter, she's their first grandchild, and they just met her a couple of weeks ago. BD just met her a month ago as well, for that matter.

I'm hoping that THAT will be my saving grace, that he's just not been that involved. But I WANT him to have a good relationship with our daughter. I know that custody issues always favor the mother, especially if she's been the custodial parent for any real length of time, but IF they take me to court for custody on the premise of me being unfit due to living in a poly family, I'm scared that if I get the wrong judge, they'd win. This would devastate me beyond words, beyond breath...I'm trying not to think about it. I do want to do everything I can to prevent that from happening.

Ideas? Resources?

Last edited by Creatress; 08-21-2009 at 06:35 AM.
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