Originally Posted by suesuekp
How do you decide if this is something to get involved in? My husband and I have been married for 5 yrs and he has had a girlfriend for the last 4.5 yrs. She's heavily involved in his career and I feel like he's basically living 2 lives. I'm tired of living this way and we have talked about this, but it gets a little more complicated. We are very sexual people and have been involved in the swinger world (just with other women) and I'm not sure we can seperate the two, however she is definitely not interested in that. Actually I'm not even sure she's interested in this, but we both love him and he loves us both and this just seems to be the right avenue to take. Of course we have children (3 teenage boys) and she does not and I wouldn't have a clue how to explain something like this to them. I need whatever advice is available out there. Also, do all polyamory couples live together?
No they don't. Sounds like it has been working for a long time, so what is it you are tired of exactly?