Originally Posted by nightwalker
He isn't really into kids so I don't see him ever wanting to be the babysitting type. The two of them could babysit but they feel that would be interfering with their quality time together.
My wife's other husband is happy to look after our kids, to his credit. Also he is always ready to jump in and offer things like car lifts at any time. That's the way it should be. With a relationship such as this comes responsibility for all participants.
But then again I am posiibly viewing this from the perspective of our own arrangement, which we see as a permanant thing; we don't have a plan B.
Is your partners SO likely to always be a "boyfriend"? And is their relationship still at a very early stage? Maybe your partner doesn't really want him to be involved with the kids? All these questions are relevant.