Originally Posted by Krazykitty
I said "yes", but cried for weeks on end.
I think it obvious that you weren't ready for anything poly. Were I him, I also would not believe that you're ready for it now without anything to indicate a difference. Talking about it is only a repeat of last time--you talked and said you were up for it while the crying jag showed you weren't.
When speaking of various forms of non-monogamy...it ain't poly if you're just fucking around.
While polyamory, open relationships, and swinging are all distinctly different approaches to non-monogamy, they are not mutually exlusive. Folks can, and some do, engage in more than one of them at a time--and it's all good.