well stillshocked, all I suggest is at least to be open to possibility that's all. Even about your friends... doesn't sound crazy to me, after all friendships turn into romances in mono relationships.
Sounds like you all could have your first poly meet up there in the mall! Start something, there is bound to be others... list serve? Start a monthly meeting to just have coffee and discuss what ever people want to discuss... that is what we started with and we are a strong community now. That is how to find like minded people and possible partners I think.
Anyone want to be friends on Facebook?
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