Someone who treats Breathes right...doesn't cause him any grief & whom I can actually get along with.
The insecurities, disappointment and anger start when I feel either one of us is being lied to or the person is being rude.
For some reason rudeness is a huge, HUGE trigger for me. It doesn't matter what other qualities a person has, if they are rude they set me off which causes no end of trouble.
There are as many ways to do polyamory as there are people practicing it!