Actually I wonder if women would be more interested...it sounds like you are looking for monogamy with a bit of an arrangement for now, until your arrangement in the military changes. I would be up front and honest from the get go and make sure your story matches your wife.
I doubt that finding a reliable date at the bar will work for this one... too complicated and not the best circumstance to be under and be honest. But, you never know right?
You could find someone on a dating site, or at a local poly meet maybe... hell, try it all, see what happens. It could be a fun project for a time, and you might come up with someone... or your wife might think, "woah, he's serious" and change her mind.
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