I seem to remember that the basic issue here is that your wife doesn't want you and nikki to get it on. The only thing that's different now is that she says she's "in love" with nikki.
It sounds like your wife would prefer to be the hinge of a V with two partners who are monogamous with her.
It does not seem to me as though much has changed. From what you have written here, your wife sounds like quite a manipulator. At this point, I'm reluctant to say much more without having your wife and nikki here to give their sides of the story.
Last edited by NeonKaos; 11-01-2010 at 05:27 PM.