I think you should have a talk with them and see where you guys are standing. It seems you're their secondary when you want to be a primary. Do they know you do? Maybe they just assumed that's the way the relationship would go.
If you discuss it, they'll be able to tell you if they see it happening or not. If there is no hope of change, I think none of you will be happy in the end, as you won't get what you want.