Yea I had no idea what that was and I realize I'm in a peculiar situation I didn't want to wax on.
SchrodingersCat- I agree with you completely. I'm not so much nervous as I am trying to be considerate of his feelings because I can be a little... imposing.
Redpepper- that sounds great I'll try that!
now here's hoping we actually have a conversation soon so I can explain.