Originally Posted by TruckerPete
From my experience, if she is not comfortable with you and he having sex, then watching you two could be even worse.
TP, I never thought of it that way. But that is an excellent point. I'm not sure why that seems to be a common thought process that "well, I'm not okay with them having sex alone, but we can all have a threesome." It is natural that if you're not ok w/ them having it, then watching would really hard as well. This thread has been helpful in sorting my thoughts. There's just no upside to pushing yourself into sexual situations you don't want 100%. Maybe when there's less pressure perhaps she and I might develop something. But it's ok if we don't too, I guess.