RP, do you not do things with them that you don't necessarily enjoy doin.g simply because THEY enjoy doing them? I seem to remember a dat with you & PN not so long ago where you went over the finances--something you despize but PN enjoys.
if it were something either of them truly despised they would say something.
doing something you don't enjoy just to see the smile on their faces is worth it, no? I'm sure it's the same when they do something with u--they do it to see the smile.
There are as many ways to do polyamory as there are people practicing it!