Originally Posted by tincuptt
There aren't many single 27 year old bachelors who are looking to steal a wife and four kids away
Maybe, but maybe he's interested in the wife, knowing she's already had kids and he won't have to "provide" any, and that you'll be there to take out of her kids while she's out with him.
Which isn't necessarily very fair to you. Getting to know you could help with that. Possibly getting involved with the kids in some way (as a friend of you guys), ideally to take care of them for the two of you to go out on a date, would I think be ideal later down the road.
When you start a relationship with someone, you take them the way they are, with all their baggage: that include the kids and the existing partners.
This being said, I don't want to be too categorical here. I hear DADT works for some people. I still you need to ask yourself if it really does for you...