Originally Posted by pancake
So I'm in the process of letting go of what I thought my life would be like. It's freakin hard! I'm incredibly grateful for the opportunities I've had, especially career-wise, but I didn't love my first real job and I'm transitioning out of it within the next year and a half. At pretty much the same time I make this huge decision, my couple comes into my life and wants to make us a triad. I want to...we've had a rough road (I have a personal summary on the newest page) but I love having them in my life. My hang-up is letting go of that white picket fence, the soulmate man (I think I would like to identify as mono more than I actually am), the happily-ever-after marriage and adventures. I get resentful sometimes for little things, because B and H are married and have gotten to do their wedding, newlywed thing, get to play normal happy couple to his parents. I wonder, has anyone else been here? I'm not bound and determined to have those things...I'm a fairly independent and somewhat rational person...but every so often I get all indignant that I might never have in-laws. It's weird. How did you deal?
I remember that monogamy isn't all it's cracked up to be! I've been there, twice, & own the rudy t-shirt!
Give me a relationship where the partners communicate, respect each other, talk their problems out without anger and name calling & there's love & I'm happy. Give me more than one relationship like that & I'm in heaven!
MyNameIsMaam is correct though. Life changes. We change. We move on to bigger and better things. Enjoy the moment for it may never come again.