[bimblynim]

Along with the above, I really value communication, but sometimes the only person who can make you feel secure is yourself, its trying to figure out where those lines are that can be the bitch. I do a simillar thing to grounded spirit in that I try to parent the little insecure person inside me, I may well tell her to get over it/not to be ruled by it but beating myself up doesn't help so I will also tell her that I love her and that she's ok. Realise that this may make me sound a bit mental, i'm not, its what works for me