Just curious - You have identified yourself as a lesbian for 13 years and have been in a lesbian relationship for 11 (albeit an unhealthy one and that really sucks). Was your partner a lesbian or bi? Did you both just decide to open your relationship up and try polyamory or were you always in an open relationship? What made you decide to go for a married somewhat hetero couple?
These are just all my curiosity. I have no ill motives with the questions. Although it does always fascinate me when people can be gay and then not...or likewise a 40 year old woman who is all of a sudden gay. I was just having this convo with my sister today. Like she has a curiosity for women, but knows it is nothing more than that and she is straight. For me, I have known since I was very small I was a lesbian and even thought nothing of talking about marrying a woman when I was 5 or 6 and being told by other kids that was not something I could do. Did not occur to me at the time that was odd..LOL. Anyway, kinda freaks me out when lesbians say that they are no longer lesbian anymore - like Redpepper. I just literally can't imagine it. It would shake my world so much I might as well have amnesia because I would not even know myself. How in the world does that happen? I guess unless you two were always bi. Anyway, these are my own issues (of course...it is always about ourselves) and I mean no disrespect.