Originally Posted by ImaginaryIllusion
Ask yourself the hard questions, and be very honest with yourself about the answers. Try to detach yourself from the emotions long enough to make a calm rational decision,...this is the step most people seem to miss, and I'm convinced it's what causes a lot of the tears and heartache. It sounds cold, but you need to make your calculations with a level head to decide where you want to be in a year or two, or five, and how you want to get there.
Awesome advice! This is good advice for any situation let alone this one. I can think of many poly situations where this would be useful.