Originally Posted by Ren
What I'm learning is that we do have an 'Us" already. It's just really, really messed up and unsustainable as it sits now. Lemon, it sounds a lot like what you've described. How did you make that jump from family to poly?
Well, really, there wasn't a jump from family to poly--it was more like, we made a jump from two different families to one, in our eyes. The responses everyone has given you describe a lot of what we ended up doing. A lot of research, a lot of talking, a lot of mistakes that had to be worked through. And don't get me wrong, we're still researching, talking, and making mistakes. I would say, have a clear idea of what you would like your ideal future to look like, have a clear idea of what you want, and communicate with them. Go at the pace of the slowest, and don't move forward until everyone is comfortable. Be honest, genuine, and loving. Be willing to compromise, because it's never easy to get three people on the same page.