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Old 10-15-2010, 07:25 AM
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http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?t=3626 might have something on it for you. I can't remember, but I am hoping.

Metamours are tricky. If you get ones that you are compatible with then I think that that is good luck. We don't get to pick them, they just come with the territory. For me the foundation to poly, besides honest communication and respect is also having this with metamours. When we need them to be as such it's so important that we can rely on that. We also have to be the same way.

I would suggest being what you want your metamours to be. Talk to them openly and honestly about your expectations that they are also open and honest with you and that you also expect that they be respectful to all involved. That includes making sure there are no items left to talk about...

Then I would ask them if there is any issues or concerns that they think need to be addressed...
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