Originally Posted by MonoVCPHG
Just a quick one..he's a father and you are an equal person. You damn sure have a right to go out and do whatever you want and let him watch the kids he helped create. I can't wrap my head around the rest of his dreams for one big family so early on. NRE is a wonderfully joyous and ridiculous thing. It brings incredible passion and equal stupidity. If you do choose to open up your relationship, you should actually want it, not just tolerate it. Tolerating something that big can't be healthy for you in the long run in my opinion. Read lots about monos with pollies or pollies who open up their relationship and only one partner finds another lover. Get him to read too. He needs some gold knocked off the glittering fantasy he has. It's possible, but it takes a lot of work. Regardless, his child should come first, that's part of the adult responsibility of creating one.
Take care and welcome to the forum
I'm definitely going to second Mono here. Tonberry and I have talked about sharing a home with her boyfriend, but this is after a stage where we know their relationship is long-term and he and I have become friends. If she had tried to say that he was moving in when they first started dating, though, you bet I would have slowed things down, because that would have been moving way too fast.
Dating is one thing, but living together is a completely different issue and not something to leap into.