V in Middle TN
Hello everyone! I am B, from middle TN. I have been happily married to R for 11 1/2 years and we have two children together who are 11 and almost 9 years old.
R and I struggled the first few years of our marriage because I was still desperately in love with my high school sweetheart, D. About 5 years ago R was finally ready to begin experimenting and we dated another couple for about a year. When they had to move, R decided he no longer wanted to pursue a relationship for himself, but finally felt comfortable enough to allow me to bring D back into my life on a physical level. D and I had been talking on the phone for hours a day for years.
D has been living 3 hours away so we only got to see each other on the weekends, sometimes having to go several weeks between visits. After 4 years D is finally moving in with us!!!
The kids love him like an uncle. They have no idea about the reality of situation and we will wait until they are older and ask questions before talking to them about it.
Both of my guys are straight, so I am the pivot point of the V. They both have permission from me to have other relationships, but neither has wanted to in the 4 years we have been in this arrangement. D would be fine with me having more partners, but my husband would rather I not, at least not with another man. I am very bi, but as you all know, meeting that special woman who is bi, and happens to like me and both of my men is nearly impossible.
I am here mostly for community. Multiple partners is greatly looked down on in this area and because of our children we basically have to be "in the closet" or their friends' parents wouldn't allow them to come over, etc.
I look forward to getting to know you guys!