*waves shyly* Hello
Hi, I'm Chris, female, 30 and living in Oklahoma. I am rather new to polyamory as an actual defined idea but have been in a poly relationship for about 9 months now. I hope that makes sense. I'm new to the lingo so bear with me as I try to explain my current situation, which feels complicated to me.
I've been married to my husband for 9 years now and we've been together for 13. I was monogamous up until 9 months ago and by some standards still am. I met someone online through a roleplaying game and got to know him better over time, eventually developing feelings for him beyond friendship, he did the same as well toward me. We finally admitted our feelings early this year and have formed a relationship but we have never met, only talked on the phone. While getting to know him I also got to know one of his male partners and we became a triad as I love them both.
Throughout this developing relationship I have been open and honest with my husband about everything that goes on. He has been very understanding and accepting, though he is content with monogamy for the time being. So to sum it up I guess I would be the point of a V with one side being a triad.
Some of my primary concerns right now are making sure that my husband and I communicate consistently about our feelings about our current situation, so far so good on that front.
My other concern relates to the nature of online and long-distance relationships and whether or not they will actually be fulfilled in person. Sometimes I have my doubts that we will actually meet and that makes me wonder where that puts me. I have considered looking for another partner that I can be with physically, not just emotionally, but that is just a half-formed wish at this point.
So that's me at present. I look forward to learning more and talking with others about polyamory. I'm glad to find a place to talk with open, like-minded people about a life that I don't share with anyone else beyond my partners.