Ok Cupid has its own undercurrent of what will get you responses, and what won`t. Especially with women dating women.
I`m not sure what your profile says,...but it`s usually a good idea, if you are open to 1 on 1 with the woman, and having no involvement of husbands, to say so in the profile.
Otherwise, being married and bi, will put you in the 'automatic unicorn-shopping' category.
Tweak and play wtih your profile. Often.
Yes,..it can be harder to connect with women until you get your profile to a point, that makes other women feel confident in responding. It`s very easy to dismiss inquiries, if anything on a profile reads as alarming.
Once I had my profile to a point that spoke the truth, without being wordy, I have never had a problem connecting with women on there.