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Old 10-11-2010, 01:36 AM
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Originally Posted by River View Post
New2Poly,

I'm both fascinated and excited by the possibilities we're rubbing up against in this conversation about "non-sexual passionate love". In reality, at present, I can only imagine myself into such a relationship. I think I could do well in such a situation. But I have so little experience with it. So who knows. And, obviously, there are perhaps a thousand ways to be in such a relationship. Some folks may include lots of hugging, cuddling, holding hands... -- physical intimacy which isn't sexual, per se. That sounds good. I could deal with that. But I'm also a sexual being, and so I'd probably want to be getting that need met by another--or others.
Hi River,

This is where I am at. And I agree there are a thousand ways to be in such a relationship. For me, the line stops at soft kissing, no tongues. I find tongue kissing too much of a turn on and feel that it would make me disrespect his sexuality, by attempting to cross HIS boundaries. We also do not engage in making out or petting... nothing that can be misconstrued as an invitation or precursor to sex. Touching, holding, hugging, kissing, hand holding, laying against and snuggling are all a part of our physical relationship and our emotional relationship is much deeper. It is very satisfying to me. It seems that I only feel frustrated when his female persona is teasing me . We have not yet reached a level with that where either of us is uncomfortable. But we both realize when he is in drag it ads a spin to things that we don't have in our day to day relationship. Fortunately, we are in public when he is in drag, and so moderation is absolutely necessary. However, I do spend a lot of money on those nights, and he seems to make a lot more tips since he's met me. LOL

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Anyway, the ideal that I can imagine but which I have not yet lived/experienced involves lots of people, lots of contacts, lots of relationships... some of which are very-very intimate and bonded (sexually or otherwise) and others which are less so. In my ideal world, everyone (nearly) would be much more available for touch, for hugs and cuddles and caresses. Kisses, even. And I'd be more available for these, too! (I've got my "stuff".)
Me too. Which is why I'm having so much success with this relationship. I finally feel 100% fulfilled in having affection. Something I have never really had and always needed.

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Sex is good. Sex is important. Sex is valuable. But love is more so. Or so thinks I.
can I get an Amen? LOL
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