Originally Posted by SchrodingersCat
The best way to find people is to stop looking.
Sounds ass-backwards, I know. But the best love sneaks up on you when you're totally looking in another direction.
This was such a deja vu statement for me. However, I have spoken of it only in terms of monogamous relationships with friends who are trying to find someone to be with, and struggling with sites like eHarmony, AFF, what have you. It is exactly how I found my wife 19 years ago...because I wasn't looking for her.