I'm sorry you're sad. I don't think anyone much on the forum will be happy at the moment. I think we are all affected. I guess that's what happens in a community.
As far as the coming out thing I can imagine my mother doing exactly the same thing (if I wanted to tell her). She would handle it to our faces, because she doesn't like conflict and because she wouldn't want to create distance between us but then she'd just have to discuss it and all her misgivings with others. There would also be the drama and attention she would create and draw to herself as a result (not a judgment just an observation about the way she behaves). I love my mother but nah, some things are best not discussed.