Originally Posted by jcatx
Knowing that the way you are hurts the other person?.
Regardless of whether you are mono or poly, it's not who we are that might hurt our partners...it's what we do. If we find out that we can't do the things we need and want without hurting our partners, then thier is probably no healthy partnership to begin with.
There might be limits to what you will be able to achieve becasue of your different natures but you should always be able to achieve a state of happiness for both.