I got to talk to this guy via text last night when he got off work. Him and I are still cool as friends and actually have plans to hang out on Sunday. He said he's not interested because he doesn't find me attractive physically (ouch, but he did say he was sorry to be so honest) and me being married doesn't work for him. He can't help if he doesn't feel it and if he isn't interested in a poly lifestyle. So friends it is. :P
I told M what's going on and, while he was busy, he did say he was sorry.
Married to my wonderful husband (Laughingman) and we are currently trying to form a triad with our friend. New to poly!