Yeah and you are probably right but at the same time out of the group only like one person is trying to figure out who it is I am dating. Most of the others do know we have an alternative marriage- but as for his family and friends, I only know one of them and he knows the situation so having a new person can just avoid drama and keep the worlds separate. Its not really the end of the world if the people from this group figure out he is my other guy, its just not preferable.
However if his family finds out, that would cause some really big issues. In the end I think it will all be okay
Thank you for your input and as much as I don't want to agree you are probably right but at least it will keep his family and my family separate ykwim?