I can only say what I would do in your shoes. If my beloved was suffering the way you describe, I would do my best to jumpstart the communication between them. If he is emotionally paralyzed, he needs someone to advocate on his behalf. Open a dialogue. Put the issues right out there and let them both know you are not okay with the slow bleeding out for their relationship, because of the suffering it is causing your beloved. It's past time for them to either "solve or dissolve."
Last edited by Fidelia; 10-04-2010 at 03:46 AM.
Reason: typos and 'cuz I felt like it.