My gf has only dated one other person in the time Ive been w her (21 mos). Things didnt work out with that bf, but I didnt meddle, I let her deal with him in her own way. I just stayed in the background and let her vent when she needed to, cuddled her, etc.
But it seems like many ppl here are much more involved with the metamours than my gf and I ever are.
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley
me: Mags, 59, living with:
miss pixi, 37