Indigo and I had GOOD sex tonight. If you've read his blog at all, you know this is a big positive step!
I've been making much more of an effort to be physical with him, even when I don't feel like it. And surprisingly this did help me feel closer. Not every touch need be a prelude to sex. Once this false expectation was removed, the pressure I felt was greatly reduced.
Tonight, he made a huge effort to listen and communicate and ask for feedback, and I gave him this and clobbered the doubts in my head with a great big stick!
We will need to continue to work at this, but a success, especially a spur of the moment one, is a great relief.
I love you dear! I knew things would start working again!
I'm a pansexual female, married to and living with Indigo
(straight male), in a relationship with and living with Mr. A (straight, mono male).
One day I might stop "practicing" polyamory and just start living it!
Here Be Dragons
Originally Posted by AutumnalTone
Nobody gets a toaster oven for recruiting monos.